Desiderata

Go placidly amidst the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.

And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful.

Strive to be happy.

 

“Some time around the year 1959, Reverend Frederick Kates, rector of Saint Paul's Church in Baltimore, Maryland, included Desiderata in a compilation of devotional materials for his congregation. The compilation included the church's foundation date: "Old Saint Paul's Church, Baltimore A.D. 1692." The date of the text's authorship is widely mistaken as 1692, the year of the church's foundation.
When Adlai Stevenson died in 1965, a guest in his home found the Desiderata near his bedside and discovered that Stevenson had planned to use it in his Christmas cards.^[1] Subsequently, the poem became widely known as having been found at Saint Paul's Church of Baltimore – but confusing the date of the church's foundation as the date of the text's authorship.^[1]”

References

1.      ^ ^{a b c d} Platt, Suzy, ed (1993). Respectfully Quoted: A Dictionary of Quotations. Library of Congress. Barnes & Noble. p. 212. Retrieved 2011-11-10. Note that this reproduces Ehrmann's original, unformatted text; many later reproductions break it into lines of blank verse.

2.      ^ "Bell v. Combined Registry Co., 536 F.2d 164 (7th Cir., 1976)". United States Court of Appeals for the Seventh Circuit. May 14, 1976.

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By Max Bowen/Staff Writer Billerica Minuteman Billerica, Mass. — When Gen Lopez was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2003, she, like many others, turned to chemotherapy and surgery to battle the disease.

Though successful, the medical procedures left her weak and nauseous. That changed when she discovered Reiki, a method of therapy that helped her lessen the pain, and live a more normal life while undergoing her treatment.

Reiki is a method of healing developed in Japan in 1922. Through this technique, practitioners channel healing energy through their hands. It is not a religious practice, and Lopez said belief in its effectiveness doesn’t influence the treatment.

Chemotherapy, which she underwent every two weeks, left Lopez very ill, unable to sleep or relax. she attended a Reiki session and was amazed at how she felt afterwards. While the technique was no miracle cure for the side effects, she said it allowed her to return to work the next day.

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The Damage of Criticism

     The effect that criticism has upon a person, explains that when you verbally attack me, it is a given that I will retaliate. It isn’t much different than if you were physically assaulting me. I perceive your words as an attack against the essence of me, and it is almost within the category of self-defense for me to strike back at you. Every fiber of my being screams out to defend myself against the onslaught of your words.

     Criticism is but one step below a verbal attack. It isn’t quite as pointed, not quite as aggressive- but not that far off. When you criticize me, I am under attack. The essence of me, who I am, and what I stand for is being assaulted. You may not have intended it that way, but that is what I feel. There is a powerful sense of disapproval and condemnation that comes across, and I feel under attack. No one likes to be criticized, and the easiest course is to avoid the pain by pulling away. The greater you are in my eyes, the greater the damage of your words, and the more they will drive a wedge between us.

     The realty is that we humans are very sensitive; we hunger for approval and despise rejection. When you criticize me, it may not be your intention, but I feel unwanted and unaccepted. I feel that you don’t approve of me so I am not respected in your eyes. That emotion is very difficult to bear. The easiest course is for me to run away- away from the situation, and away from you.

     For that reason, criticism is poison to all relationships. As a parent, it is one of the most noxious elements that can ruin an otherwise strong relationship.  As a spouse, it can be the wedge that drives apart an otherwise happily married couple. And among friends, it can be the force that ends an otherwise nurturing relationship.

     One of the most difficult experiences for a person to live through is disapproval. When I am aware that you disapprove of me, it is so hurtful that, rather than bear the pain, I avoid it by avoiding you. The more I value your opinion, the more hurt I will feel, and the more those words will cause me to want to escape your presence.

     Three rules of criticism. For that reason, before a person sets out to criticize, he should remember the three cardinal rules of criticism. The first rule is; don’t do it. The second rule is; don’t do it. And the third rule is; don’t do it.

     Don’t do it, because it hurts. Don’t do it, because it distances people. Most of all, don’t do it, because it does not work.

     Even if your intentions are to help, and even if you only mean these words for the good of the recipient, criticism is a powerful separator that accomplishes no good, merely drives people apart, and should be avoided like the plague.

                                         

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